Is your girl an annoyingly incurable romantic?

You wanted to comfort her the first time she wept in your arms while watching a romantic flick. You now come up with dazzling excuses every time she suggests watching more mush together.

Though she claims to be a serious reader, you know she has a collection of Mills & Boon stashed away in her cupboard. Her double standards coupled with mood swings often leave you flustered, never mind a tad insane, and you find yourself eventually giving in to her every tantrum.

Some women make no bones about their weakness for romance, which of course many men find appealing in the first few dates, but slowly as the sheen comes off a fresh romance they begin to find those very traits of hers most annoying. A lot of men seem to agree that not every time is time for romance, that you cannot be a perpetual romantic seeking perfect endings all the time, or worse still believe that every romance ends in tragedy.

Often when a habit turns into compulsion, fissures emerge in a relationship. Just like stepping out together might be a good virtue among couples, but when putting in a joint appearance comes at the cost of forcibly dragging a partner along, it is bound to breed resentment.

Respecting each other’s space and individuality are extremely crucial to make your love affair weather troubled times, and definitely in the long run it means more than just holding hands or going on ‘romantic’ candlelight dinners.

If your girl’s romantic streak has started to wear you out, and you feel there is only so much you can handle, take our quiz to find out if it’s time for a little heart-to-heart chat with her.

1. When taking a holiday together, she…
a) insists you have photos taken together getting cosy
b) is simply happy to be alone with you
c) lets you have your space and enjoys hers

2. On her birthday, she…
a) expects you to get her flowers and a teddy apart from other gifts
b) would love anything you get her
c) would rather pick her own present

3. When you suggest watching a movie together, she…
a) only wants to see a tearjerker or a chick flick
b) prefers romantic movies, but lets you decide
c) is open to watching any good movie

4. When catching up with a group of friends, she…
a) always wants you to tag along
b) loves going out with you, but not when you aren’t comfortable
c) usually meets them up on her own without bothering you

5. Public Display of Affection (PDA) to her is…
a) a great way of showing love
b) restricted to simply holding hands
c) an absolutely repulsive concept

6. When you offer to take her out for dinner, she…
a) prefers nothing less than a proper candlelight dinner
b) looks forward to it, and never really fusses over the place
c) usually decides the venue

7. As an anniversary present, she…
a) always loves jewellery, preferably diamonds
b) would love to go on a long drive followed by dinner
c) prefers a holiday together

8. When her friend sings praises of her boyfriend/husband, she…
a) is secretly jealous, and wants you to be like him
b) is glad to know that her friend is happy
c) doesn’t get moved by such anecdotes

9. Valentine’s Day is to her…
a) indeed the day of love and romance, which you cannot overlook
b) another excuse to buy presents and celebrate
c) just another day

10. When in the middle of a heated discussion, she…
a) weeps to get her way
b) gives valid reasons and argues
c) usually stages a walk out

Mostly As:
Your girl is most definitely a hopeless romantic. She loves everything textbook, movie-like, is hardly connected to the realities on the ground, or for that matter your feelings. She has lost touch with her real self, and is a victim of consumerism. Such a girl could be self-centered, and might not let even your priorities get in the way. She needs a reality check, and most desperately needs to reconnect with you.

Mostly Bs:
Yours is a loving and doting woman. She never puts herself before you, and to her your feelings and likes, dislikes matter most. She is sensitive, and loves your company, but frets getting over-possessive. Though she has a mind of her own, she’d want you to take the lead. Not to mention, she is fun loving, appreciates the little joys of life, is a trusted partner, and most importantly cherishes your relationship.

Mostly Cs:
Fiercely independent and individualistic is your girl. She might come across to you as a tad distant, but that is her way of showing love. She makes her own decisions, though can at times be very adamant. Practical, calculative, opinionated and intelligent, this woman too is in love with you, only she is a bit hesitant expressing herself, lest it is construed as weakness. She believes in giving space in a relationship, and appreciates if you did the same.